– By Dr. Jetson Satya Gospel
It is quite natural and normal for any child to be naughty. As a parent we need to be mindful about it and know when and how to react. Here are a few tips to help you handle naughty children when they cross the boundary.
Tips for handling Naughty kids
Reasons behind the behaviour: Stop assuming that they’re misbehaving and discuss with them about what’s happening in a calm tone. Reason with them and explain what they could have done better.
Screen time: Reduce screen time to make them less cranky and to enhance their sleep quality.
Rules & Guidelines: Ensure your children understand what the rules and guidelines are at home and elsewhere, and what is expected of them.
Be Firm: Do not yield to your kids’ bad attitude. Be firm in your resolve to address their behaviour.
Do not harp: It’s not the children who are bad, but it is their behaviour. So, treat them kindly. In case the children are younger than 4 years of age, do tell them firmly that it is not okay to do so every time they do it, but do not lecture or harp on it. Tell them and redirect them to another activity. Focusing too much on bad behaviour can also reinforce it.
Appreciate them: Appreciate your children when they do good. This reinforces good behaviour.
Bonding over quality time: Children need your attention and love. Make it an everyday practice to spend quality time together.
Constructive engagement: Make sure your children are engaged in good activities. They are less prone to be naughty when they are occupied in some activities that they enjoy. Ensure they have some independence so they don’t feel constrained.
Tips for handling yourself
Time Out: If you feel you’ve been pushed over your limits, take time out. Step aside and let another take care of the children. Take time to relax and cool down.
Self Care: Take care of yourself. When you do, you are a better parent.
Reliability: Be dependable, reliable and consistent.
Composure: Remain steadfast and keep a steady composure without throwing a fit despite wanting to.
Remember who the Adult is: Try not to dump your irritation on your kid and try not to vent your anger on your child.
Do not shout: Shouting won’t yield any positive results. When you shout, your children will tune you out. They would listen to the sounds and not to the words.
Your conduct will be a mirror to your kids’ way of behaving, so ensure your behaviour is something that your children can follow. Try not to be too harsh on your children as this will make them insincere and adamant. Being clear and straightforward with your kids will go a long way in ensuring that they don’t act naughty constantly. Show respect, love and regard towards your children and they will return the same towards you and others.
